BDSM Sessions with Ambre Jade

BDSM is a term used to describe a wide range of erotic and sensual acts. As well as the dynamic of the relationship between participants. In general, there is a component of power exchange, where one person is in the dominant position and the other submissive. (For the purposes of this piece, I am using a two person dynamic. This by no means implies that BDSM relationships are limited to two participants.)

BDSM GraphicWhat is BDSM?

BDSM is the abbreviation of its three main concepts:

  • Bondage and Discipline
  • Dominance and Submission
  • Sadism and Masochism

Bondage and Discipline:

Bondage is most closely associated with physical restraint. Physically restraining a submissive in or to remove their power and control. (See SSC). In such a position, the submissive is at the mercy of the Domme. Limbs can easily be restrained allowing the Domme physical control of the submissive. Physical bondage has a significant part to play in BDSM. There are practices which focus primarily on tying, cuffing, pressing… any action that would physically limit the submissive. The idea being that when one is limited physically, when one has little to no control over their body, they will give themselves over to their Domme. Bondage can also be interpreted as a restraint on the submissive mentally. This is where discipline takes over. Behaviours and protocols are set out by the Domme to train their submissive in a manner most suited to the Domme’s needs. Obviously, physical discipline is also included (see Sado-Masochism).

Dominance and Submission:

There is a power dynamic in BDSM. An exchange of power in which one gives away control and the other takes. You have the Dominant, the person taking the power, and the submissive, the person giving away the power.

Sado-Masochism:

Pain can be a wonderful addition to any sensual experience. It promotes a hormonal response within the body, potentially creating sensations of euphoria among the recipient. It can also be utilized as a tool for punishment, when discipline is necessary. While the body is occupied, dealing with the sensations of pain and the subsequent hormaonal changes, the mind has the ability to block out such feelings. A pain can create an environment in which the person experiences becomes the self that is normally hidden from view. With the body busy, the mind lowers its defenses. The lowering of defenses allows the true person to come through. It can be an almost awakening experience. One where you come into contact with who you are at the core being. And then there are people who just enjoy pain 🙂

  • Sadism: The concept that inflicting pain on another will bring satisfaction and even pleasure to the individual inflicting said pain.
  • Masochism: The concept that experiencing pain will bring satisfaction and pleasure to oneself.

Sane, Safe, and ConsensualSSC – Sane, Safe, and Consensual!

All experiences with BDSM are based on the concept of SSC. Sane, Safe, and Consensual! Sane: an act must be sane, and the people involved should be of a sane mind. Sobriety is essential during a session. A calm mind, free of anger is essential as the Domme. Sanity! Safe: the acts should be safe. While physical harm may occur, be sure to have adequate information on safety precautions and the like. As a submissive, you are allowed to question the safety precautions of the experience (preferably before you embark on the experience). Consensual!!!!!! Such an important part of any experience! You must consent to the experience BEFORE the session, if it is something rather extreme. Just because you are submissive, does not mean you lack the ability to consent. Any Dominant individual who makes such claims should be blacklisted!

BDSM With Ambre Jade:

Now that we have a general overview of BDSM, very general, what does BDSM with Ambre Jade look like?

I am a Domme. And while I started my BDSM experiences as a switch, I no longer identify as such. My experiences as a switch have given me insight into the inner workings of a submissive. It is a perspective that is rather unique. You can learn more about my personal experiences with BDSM and Femdom in the ABOUT section.

I am a huge, HUGE proponent of protocols. As such discipline is very important to me during sessions.

There is a part of me that is very sadistic, within reason. I do see it more as an empathetic sadism. I really use pain as a motivator unless I am sure my submissive is a willing participant. I do not need to inflict pain to enjoy myself. Part of me very much enjoys your cries when they occur. This sort of duality is complicated but it is part of what makes me whom I am.